Someone who does not feel that they fit the societal norms of binary gender, usually identifying as both male and female, neither male nor female, or a separate gender altogether ("other"). Gender-queers are not necessarily transgender or transsexual, but often act or think in a non-stereotypical way regarding their physical gender. Some gender-queers have a rigid idea of what their gender is, while others feel that their gender is fluid, changing from day to day or even from one situation to another. Gender-queers are sometimes drag kings or drag queens, dressing as the opposite biological sex and acting out stereotypical gender behavior as a form of parody. The chosen appearance of gender-queers varies, but in general they choose to maintain an androgynous look. Biologically female gender-queers sometimes wear cologne, have manly or gender-neutral haircuts, and/or bind their breasts in an attempt to present as gender-queer, or as someone who doesn't conform to typical gender behavior. Biologically male gender-queers may or may not wear make-up, dresses or skirts, or otherwise publicly show that they are connected to both their masculine and feminine sides. Gender-queers are usually homosexuals, but not all of them are.
Matt identifies as gender-queer, and would like to be referred to as "zie," (gender-neutral pronoun), rather than "he".
Elsie (traditionally a female's name), a gender-queer, changed her name to Jack (traditionally a man's name) in order to publicly show that she is more than just a female.
Going over-board with adding letters to the traditional "GLBT (Gay/Lesbian/Bi-sexual/Trans)" acronym to attempt to include every non-homophobic possibility. GLBT alphabet soup can become a very long, nonsensical acronym. It becomes nonsensical in that it is redundant. Queer, for example, is a rather broad term that has already been covered by the GLB part of the acronym. Trans-gender and transsexual are close enough to the same thing that it's safe to just refer to those people as "trans". Questioning is ridiculous, because it doesn't take that long to figure out if you're gay or straight. Most people know their sexual orientation at a very young age. Allies shouldn't be included in the acronym because, as much as gays appreciate their support and openness, they simply aren't queer. The whole point of the original GLBT acronym is to have an all-inclusive term to describe queer people, not their fan club. Intersex is too detailed for the acronym; as previously stated, the very purpose of the GLBT acronym is to have a universal, simple term to refer to queer people. There can be more letters added, but the example of the GLBT alphabet soup is enough explanation of the redundancy of this term.
GLBT alphabet soup example (these are not all of the letters that some people use): GLBTIQQA=Gay/Lesbian/Bi-sexual/Transgender/Transsexual/Intersex/Queer/Questioning/Allies